Of course it’s always easier to say yes,even if we regret it 5 minutes after. It’s always better to be kind and do favors. As children we have been taught to be nice and to obey. Saying “no” and refusing to do something sounds for us very rude and we feel guilty every time we say no. What if saying “no” to others means saying “yes” to ourselves and to our freedom to choose without feeling bad?Don’t agree to a request you would rather decline out of guilt or obligation. Do you think that other people requests are always reasonable? Do you think that they will stop asking you to do things for them because they feel like you already did enough for them? Some people have no limit, this is why you have to be the one who knows your limits and who knows how and when to say no. Only you can know what’s too much for you.
Saying no isn’t always selfish: sometimes it means that you have other existing obligations that you have to honor. If you spend a lot of time for other people you won’t have enough time for yourself and it will be frustrating. Accepting an other task would be too much and you won’t be able to finish what you started.Always saying yes is stressful, we all need some time for us, saying no can be a path to stress relief.
Saying no will also push people to do it by themselves and maybe learn something that they wouldn’t learn if they had your help.
Saying always yes doesn’t mean that the others will love you or respect you more, good people will be thankful ,but bad people will take advantage of you,then lose their respect for you and think that you are helping them because you are stupid and because they know how to dominate you. (YES THESE KIND OF PEOPLE EXIST)
Be careful when you say yes. Compassion is good and it is always much appreciated to be a nice person and to know nice persons, but before saying yes ask yourself if it’s necessary,and remember it’s ok to say no without being judged.
Here are some nice ways to say that for the moment you can’t do what other people request.
“I can’t commit to this as I have other priorities at the moment.”
“Now’s not a good time as I’m in the middle of something.”
“I’m not the best person to help on this. Why don’t you try to ask Patrick, Jane, Steve, Helmut…”
If this doesn’t work, try the simple, happy making and liberating NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO !!!!!